Sane v. Insane Women
June 01, 2011
I couldn't have said it better myself:
Sorry, but not all women are crazy soul sucking evil bitches.
All women ARE "crazy" but there is a normal level of crazy where you complain about their shopping habits and how long they take to get ready to go out, and they complain about the shows you watch and why you're so impatient when you go to the mall together.
There is also a very small acceptable limit of "Jesus... I don't know what I've done wrong but she's in a bad mood" as well.
However, if you're constantly compensating for her lack of happiness, she has you questioning things about your relationship and yourself more than 50% of the time, and you are for the most part generally unhappy and looking for the odd moment of respite then I'm sorry... you have an emotionally abusive crazy bitch for a wife.
Women generally get a "free pass" when it comes to abuse because men are supposed to be able to take it. This unfortunately leads to situations where a man, out of a sense of duty to his child and to the idea of marriage, sacrifices almost all vestiges of happiness he may possess and actually be under the illusion that he's somehow accomplishing something. He gives up on many of his hopes and dreams pursuing the Sisyphusian like battle of trying to make her happy.
"Perhaps if I just give up more of my time for her needs... perhaps if I just remember to do that one more thing... perhaps if I don't open my mouth when X bothers me because it's not 'that' important... perhaps then she'll be happy"
No
She'll never, ever, ever be happy. Women who are like that CANNOT be happy because they're trying to fill a hole that cannot be filled. They are unable to love themselves and their lack of comfort translates into an insatiable need to control and possess.
There is a bright side however.
There ARE amazing, beautiful, intelligent and well balanced women out there. They're not plentiful by any means, but there are definitely women out there who are capable of loving themselves and hence love and understand others. You are not doing your child any service by demonstrating how much punishment you can take. Your lack of happiness is something that your child will read and have burned in their head as something they'll have to tolerate. The lack of respect you get from your wife will also have negative effects on your child's upbringing and overall happiness. The best thing you can do (if your wife IS a harpy... I don't know your story too well but it doesn't sound good so far) FOR your child would be to leave your wife.
Gain some independence. Find happiness with another woman and focus on the happiness of your child instead of the black hole who has put you in a position where you're grateful for even the most meager of physical gratifications. Put yourself in a position where even if you're single you can focus again on the things YOU love to do as well as the most important mind on the planet (that of your child) instead of the ever gaping starling like mouth of the woman who would have you believe you're not good enough.
Grow a pair and take command of your life.
All women ARE "crazy" but there is a normal level of crazy where you complain about their shopping habits and how long they take to get ready to go out, and they complain about the shows you watch and why you're so impatient when you go to the mall together.
There is also a very small acceptable limit of "Jesus... I don't know what I've done wrong but she's in a bad mood" as well.
However, if you're constantly compensating for her lack of happiness, she has you questioning things about your relationship and yourself more than 50% of the time, and you are for the most part generally unhappy and looking for the odd moment of respite then I'm sorry... you have an emotionally abusive crazy bitch for a wife.
Women generally get a "free pass" when it comes to abuse because men are supposed to be able to take it. This unfortunately leads to situations where a man, out of a sense of duty to his child and to the idea of marriage, sacrifices almost all vestiges of happiness he may possess and actually be under the illusion that he's somehow accomplishing something. He gives up on many of his hopes and dreams pursuing the Sisyphusian like battle of trying to make her happy.
"Perhaps if I just give up more of my time for her needs... perhaps if I just remember to do that one more thing... perhaps if I don't open my mouth when X bothers me because it's not 'that' important... perhaps then she'll be happy"
No
She'll never, ever, ever be happy. Women who are like that CANNOT be happy because they're trying to fill a hole that cannot be filled. They are unable to love themselves and their lack of comfort translates into an insatiable need to control and possess.
There is a bright side however.
There ARE amazing, beautiful, intelligent and well balanced women out there. They're not plentiful by any means, but there are definitely women out there who are capable of loving themselves and hence love and understand others. You are not doing your child any service by demonstrating how much punishment you can take. Your lack of happiness is something that your child will read and have burned in their head as something they'll have to tolerate. The lack of respect you get from your wife will also have negative effects on your child's upbringing and overall happiness. The best thing you can do (if your wife IS a harpy... I don't know your story too well but it doesn't sound good so far) FOR your child would be to leave your wife.
Gain some independence. Find happiness with another woman and focus on the happiness of your child instead of the black hole who has put you in a position where you're grateful for even the most meager of physical gratifications. Put yourself in a position where even if you're single you can focus again on the things YOU love to do as well as the most important mind on the planet (that of your child) instead of the ever gaping starling like mouth of the woman who would have you believe you're not good enough.
Grow a pair and take command of your life.